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Some days, I am slower than a herd of turtles stampeding through peanut butter. ~Unknown
Remember Samantha Stevens from Bewitched? Remember how she used to think of something, twitch her nose and, presto, it would appear or happen? For lack of a better label, let's call this Think-Blink-Done! That's the super power I want!
See, the pace of my life with chronic illness is slow. I do not have any gears higher than 2nd---a stick-shift car reference. (By the way, I can no longer physically handle driving a manual transmission car any more.) What works for me is the 15 minute rule: I am active for 15 minutes and then I stop. Depending on the activity, I evaluate if I can go another 15 minutes and if the answer is yes, I proceed. If the answer is no, or the activity is too strenuous for more than 15 minutes, I rest. Throughout the day, each and every day, I pace myself 15 minutes at a time.
Another important part of pacing is to alternate activities. I rotate between physical, mental, social and passive endeavors. It is obvious that physical activities are both tiring and prone to exacerbating my chronic pain and chronic fatigue; what I learned is that using my mind, being with others in-person or even on the phone and passive pursuits like watching TV or reading a book can be just as tiring when you have limited energy to exert in a day. Keeping a balance between the types of undertakings I engage in during the day helps me not overdo it. If I expend my energy wisely, I find I can stretch it across the day and into the evening and engage in the things I want and need to do.
Both of these strategies keep me in the Energy Envelope, that is, only expending the energy I have. It's all part of the Golden Rule of Chronic Illness:
If I pace, I can play. If I push, I will pay.I want to play, so I have learned to accept my life at a turtle's speed. I embrace my inner turtle! The turtle motto is: I'm not lazy, I'm just pacing myself.
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I love that saying! Funny, I've had CFS for three years, and I've never heard it before. Do you mind if I put it on my website? www.chronic-fatigue-community.com/Pacing. Pacing has been the one thing that is the most helpful to me. It has given me my (very limited) life back. Before I started pacing, I was a 24-hour zombie. Now, I can at least interact a little with my kids and do something fun once in awhile.
Hi Shelli,
Thanks for your comments on my blog post on Pacing from yesterday. I have no problem letting you include the information in that post on your site as long as you give me a little credit.
The 15 minute rule is something I picked up from the FlyLady site. The Golden Rule is something that was collectively developed by the online group I belong to through the CFIDS & Fibromyalgia Self Help site developed by Bruce Campbell. (Renee from Renee's Reflections is in the same group.) I just sort of finalized the presentation and started referring to it as The Golden Rule.
The saying, "I'm not lazy, I'm just pacing myself" is actually on a Post-It note that the occupational therapist at the Cedars Sinai Chronic Pain and Fibromyalgia Program gave us. I'll take a picture and post in on my blog today so you can see. :-)
I would love to be mentioned on your site under the blogs category. Do you ever ask people to submit articles to your site as well? I am somewhat of an aspiring writer and would welcome the opportunity to expand my writing pursuits.
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Selena :-)
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