Image by Desirée Delgado via Flickr
These lists are compliments of National Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week at www.invisbleillness.com. Get involved in Invisible Illness Week this year during the week of September 14-20, 2009, including the 5-day virtual conference online.
Things NOT TO SAY to a Chronically Ill Person
#1 – You look so good today!
#2 – You just need to get out of the house more.
#3 – If you stop thinking about it, the pain will go away.
#4 – You should just pray harder.
#5 – You must not want to get better if you won’t try this...
#6 – When I was your age I didn’t have the luxury of being sick.
#7 – You’re sick again?
#8 – I wish I could just sit around all day.
#9 – No pain, no gain!
#10 – I’d be sick too if I saw doctors as much as you do.
#11 – I have this juice that is working wonders…
#12 – You must still have sin in your life.
#13 – If you got a job you’d have something else to think about.
#14 – Your illness is caused by stress.
#15 – You can’t be in that much pain. Maybe you just want attention...
#16 – What have you done to make God so mad at you?
#17 – There are easier ways to get attention.
#18 – It’s not good for your kids to always hear you whining.
#19 – When are you going to get rid of that cane?
#20 – I’m so glad to see you out and about feeling all better.
Image by Desirée Delgado via FlickrThings TO SAY to a Chronically Ill Person
#1 - I don’t know what to say, but I care about you.
#2 - I’m going to the grocery, what can I get you?
#3 - Do you just need to vent? I’m all ears!
#4 - If you need a good cry, I’ve got plenty of tissues and a shoulder.
#5 - I really admire how you are handling this. I know its difficult.
#6 - I’m bringing dinner Thursday. Do you want lasagna or chicken?
#7 - Can I get your kids for a play date? My kids are bored.
#8 - I can't sit still. Got any laundry I can fold?
#9 - What can I pray for you about that no one else is praying for?
#10 - Can I bring a few friends over to clean your house fast?
#11 - I don’t have any idea what you are feeling, but I will always listen.
#12 - I saw these flowers and thought they’d cheer you today.
#13 - How can our church encourage those with chronic illness?
#14 - Tell me what it is really like to be you for a day.
#15 - I made too much dinner for our family. Can I bring you some?
#16 - You are amazing. How has your illness given you appreciation for life?
#17 - Do you want me to come over while you wait for test results?
#18 - You listen to me better than any other friend. Thanks!
#19 - I have Monday free if you need me to run some errands or take you somewhere.
#20 – Tell me about this God who gets you through one more day?
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