Image via WikipediaI got a reminder today of the importance of making good choices. Like deciding that life is too short to fight every battle that comes your way. Yes, today I got a refresher course on the saying 'Pick your battles' ...
Apparently, I committed a faux paus with an acquaintance and got read the riot act via email. I knew I didn't cause her any real harm and making a mistake in this situation truly wasn't a big deal. I tried to apologize and explain my position in a short, sweet and polite response, but it was clear she just wanted to be outraged and indignant about my mistake.
So I just deleted the email and left it at that.
The wiser I get to life, the more I realize that there are just a lot of people, situations and objects that aren't worth getting worked up about or worth fighting over. These fall roughly into the following categories:
- Circumstances I can't do anything about or I have no control over.
- Affairs that are none of my business.
- Stuff that is truly 'no big deal' when compared to really important things in my life like my health, my relationships and my core values.
- Incidents that just need to be let go of, because engaging in a conflict over them just isn't worth it.
- Disagreements that can't be solved by arguing about them.
- Challenges and provocations presented by others that don't deserve a fight, or even a response, from me.
- Situations were fighting over opinions, or whether one is right and the other person wrong, just doesn't matter.
Perhaps Dale Carnegie said it best:
"Any fool can criticize, complain, condemn, and most fools do. Picking your battles is impressive and fighting them fairly is essential".
How do you decide which battles to fight and which to walk away from? Do you think this gets easier with age or maturity? What is your best advice on how to pick your battles?